Category: Love

8 Reasons Why Our Marriage Works

Marriage is amazing– but for too many of the people I love it’s miserable. Why does our marriage work? (afternoon brainstorm)… 8 reasons that came to mind… why 8? I don’t know!

  1. I gave directional control of my life to Jesus in 1978 and He calls the shots — marriage was His invention — He knows how it works.
  2. He led me to the conclusion that I was supposed to choose Gail Pucik, swearing off every other woman on the planet, and spend my life helping her fulfill God’s call for her life.
  3. We pushed through many tough times, refusing to give up — even on bad days when we didn’t like each other.
  4. When we have a bad day, I found that Jesus deals with me, teaching me to love her in new ways, leading me to take the initiative to grow through the tough stuff.
  5. Walking with Jesus and wanting to please Him, I realized years ago that to walk away from her was — for me — to walk away from Him… I can’t stop.
  6. We do life together. As busy as we both are, we have learned the importance of spending time together — and we like it. A lot.
  7. She laughs at my sense of humor.
  8. And I think she’s really, really hot. I do.

The Big Clue!

John 13:34-35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.

Loving one another: Jesus Himself calls you and me to freely give love to each other. Some quick observations…

  1. Loving one another is non-optional – “a new commandment I give to you” – I must do it whether I feel like it or not.
  2. Loving one another means loving others like Jesus loves – “as I have loved you” – I must lay down my life to enhance the lives of others — their needs before my needs.
  3. Loving one another marks me as a follower of Christ before a watching world – “all will know that you are My disciples” – our mutual love for each other will draw a watching world that is hungry for what we have.
Although the word used by Jesus refers primarily to an act of the will, Peter would later add that we are to love one another “earnestly from the heart” – with heat and passion and feeling.

Imagine with me a church full of members doing this. Sacrificially loving each other with great affection in an open, flagrant manner. What would it look like? What would it feel like?

When can we start?